Many people today tend to blame the other person when a business relationship, friendship or personal relationship goes wrong. To a degree, that can be true. What we can do to improve ourselves and avoid the wrong outcome is to understand our role in the outcome. This article about Anne Hathaway provides a good example (http://www.news.com.au/entertainment/movies/anne-hathaways-one-big-movie-regret-im-going-red-this-feels-like-a-confession/news-story/9275c59bff440ac20a59fd4139e197ea). Issues in a relationship more about how we perceive the events to be and less on who is right or wrong. Think about pass relationships, the good and otherwise ones… What could you have done to make it a better outcome? Is there something you learned from those experiences? What will you do in the future to ensure a good outcome?
Many times, we talk about how bad is a rainy day or a Monday or whatever. The reality is that we are the ones making the rainy day bad and so on. Consider that without rain, we would not have water to drink, the rivers would not have water flowing and we would not be able to water our crops and eat… In short, consider how sometimes we make a small inconvenience a big problem. On this line, consider this 4-min video on this subject (English with Spanish subtitles): https://youtu.be/5qeNLgmxpnU
Challenge – Wealth creation: You build wealth and it seems always something comes up, use it and must start from scratch again. Potential solution: Revise your personal values. There could be a conflict among them, like in one hand you want to build wealth, while on the other hand, you grew up in an environment where wealth was deemed to be bad. Other personal value conflicts could also create similar outcomes.
Some businesses require a conservative approach. Others, a more dynamic style and most, require a balanced thinking style. In all cases, the business must know its purpose, what it wants to achieve. Once the business knows what its purpose is, then it would become clear what leadership style will be the best. What is your business purpose? Is it generic and very specific? Can you make it more specific? PS: “Be successful” and “generate lots of revenue” are generic. “Be in the top 5 most popular in the industry in 5 years” and “generate 5 million dollar revenue in 5 years” are specific.
Many businesses hire people like me, business coaches, to improve productivity, revenue, etc. For many people, business coaching is about how to run the business, the processes, the systems and so on. Fewer people understand that in addition to the processes, systems, etc, there is something much more important for the business to improve: How the people in the business think. The more responsibility the person has, the more important their thinking style is. Do you understand how you think? How does your thinking style impacts your career, your business, your life?