Yesterday, during a chat with a group of friends, there were two comments that make me take note and reflect. Both related to the fact that many people do not understand the need and the value of personal development. Even worse, it is the fact that a considerable number of people do not value themselves enough to consider personal development as an option to improve their lives. So, why personal development? Why should I care? What will I get? Before I go into more detail, I wonder what your opinion is on: Personal development? How important it is or if it’s important at all? How much should we do? When should we stop doing personal development? Feel free to add more perspective on this subject. I am eager to hear what you all can come up with. Please note: each one of us is entitle to our own opinion and as such let us respect whatever opinion other people have. Also, there is no right or wrong, it simple an opinion. We are all old enough to ignore what we don’t want and to take what we want.
Based on my experience coaching people, I find a strong relationship between the amount of personal development and the level of achievement and success the individual has in his/her professional career. On this regard, I invite all the take a moment and reflect on the following quotation: “If you wish to achieve worthwhile things in your personal and career life, you must become a worthwhile person in your own self-development.” – Brian Tracy
Welcome uncertainty: Life is uncertain, and many people try to stop change and the unknown. We never know what is going to happen next, so rather than avoiding being uncomfortable, embrace the unknown, become comfortable with it. Uncertainty is like a mother of a 5-7-year-old child that want to cross the street alone. The mother wants to keep the child safe and go alone to protect the child. Eventually, the mother allows the child to do a small thing and as he/she proves the mother she/he can handle, the mother start letting it be. Same thing takes place with uncertainty and managing the unknown: At the beginning we do not want it, but as we start welcoming it, we gradually and over time, we become comfortable with the unknown. The outcome is that we are willing to look for new ways and other alternatives to achieve, so we become achievers. Never stop learning and developing self (professionally and personally): We can choose to live green and growing or ripe and rotting… Green and growing is about learning new things and developing ourselves to be better, getting to know ourselves better and find out how we can improve. When we stop doing this, we become ripe… Never compare with others: Each one of us is unique, with our unique circumstances, problems, points of views, beliefs, life experiences, etc. We life in our own shoes and no someone else’s… So why do we compare our situation with others? What we must do is compare ourselves with what we were before and see how far we […]
We all have procrastinated at one time or another. In a very simplified way, procrastination is form we use to avoid a possible and unwanted outcome. In other words, we are avoiding some form of uncertainty because of one or more self-talk along the line: What if I fail? What if I can’t do it? What will people say? Etc… One uncomplicated way to move forward if to be aware of what we are doing and then start changing this self-talk to something along the lines of: What if I succeed? What if rock doing it? What if people are impressed by me? This approach may not, or it might work on day one. It will work over time. For those who like to take this even further, adopt the following theme: “Discipline, consistency and perseverance”. Every time you feel like dropping the standards, or letting it go unfinished, remember the theme and repeat it to yourself. Again, it works very quickly for some and it can take longer for others. Either way, it works!